Serial Reading of Young People’s Problems Chapter 14 – Learning to Be THOUGHTFUL

Serial Reading of Young People’s Problems

Chapter 14 – Learning to Be THOUGHTFUL

Have you ever walked into a place that just says, “Welcome,” inviting you into its very center by its warm, comforting, friendly charm? Have you ever met a person who does the same thing? How does it make you feel? Important, disarmed, captivated, safe and well? Just plain welcomed? The word welcome has an interesting origin, but it basically means “one whose coming is in accord with another’s will, pleasure, desire, or choice.” It is a matter of the will and deliberate choice. Making another feel welcome doesn’t just happen. This came to mind as I began to read today’s consideration from J.R. Miller, where he says,

“One of the finest things in a complete Christian character, is thoughtfulness. It gives a wondrous charm to a life. It makes one a blessing wherever he goes. It tempers all his conduct, softening all natural harshness into gentleness, and giving a spirit of kindliness to his every word and act, and to all his bearing.”

Miller develops his thoughts under several paragraph introductions:

  • A thoughtful person does not have to be asked to help others — he helps, as it were, instinctively.
  • He does not make his life an intrusion to others, a constant irritating influence.
  • Thoughtfulness reveals itself quite as much in what it does not do as in the things it does.
  • There is no more delicate test of thoughtfulness, than that which sorrow furnishes.
  • Thoughtfulness has a wide field for its ministry in the family circle and in the daily household life.
  • Without being aware of it, many of us are miserably selfish in our life among others.
  • Thoughtfulness will seek always to say kindly words, never words that will give pain — but ever those words that will give pleasure.

He warns that, “the very thing which of all others we should have — is the very thing in which we are most deficient. A Christian life without sweetness is a lamp without light, salt without savor.”

He closes with this: “We all know in our own experience the value of sincere and Christly thoughtfulness. We do not like to come in contact with thoughtless people. We know well how it hurts and how unbeautiful, how unchristian, it seems when we see it in another, and when our heart is the one that suffers from its harsh, rude impact. We all long for thoughtfulness in others; our hearts hunger and thirst for it. It is bread and wine to us.”

Yes, we have all known our fair share of thoughtless words, looks, and attitudes both in ourselves and in others. We have also known the refreshing fellowship and welcoming embrace of the thoughtful. As Character Advocates, it is worth our time to instill the qualities of the considerate, kind, caring, selfless, and tenderhearted individual. Miller’s final words are these: “Thoughtfulness is one of the finest, ripest fruits of love, and all who would be like the Master must seek to learn this lesson and wear this grace.”

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Chapter 15 – On the Control of TEMPER

(to be continued)

— Joe LoGiudice, Principal