Character Comment Index

Date

Title

Comments

1/2/16 Initiative  
1/9/16  Believing God Will Do What He Says  
1/15/16 Making the Most of Ones Self  John Wooden
1/20/16 Seize the Moment  Why Bad Things Happen
1/26/16 This is Not a Day Care
2/2/16 The test of morality of society Bonheoffer
2/9/16 The test of morality of society – part 2 Bonheoffer – mentors influence
2/16/16 The Big Picture Mentoring, Thomas Edison
2/23/16 The Big Picture – Part 2  SCE
3/1/16 A Matter of Grace  Hard Skills/Soft Skills
3/8/18 TEAMwork  Advocate!   
3/15/16 Listening in on my son  Life Isn’t Fair
 3/22/16  The Youthful Yoke  Mark Hamby
 4/5/16  The Youthful Yoke Part 2  
 4/12/16  The Youthful Yoke Part 3  
4/26/16  The Youthful Yoke Comments
4/26/16  How do you measure success?  
5/3/15  Train up a child in the way he should go  
5/10/16  Train up a child in the way  – Part 2  
5/17/16  Visionary Leadership  by  Mark Hamby  
5/24/16 What are you going to be doing this summer?
5/31/16 “Save Yourself!” by Mark Hamby  
 
 9/6/16 Shade Tree Parenting by Mark Hamby 
 9/13/16  Back to Basics  
 9/20/16  Redeeming the Time – Eph. 5:15-16  
 9/27/16  ReValue America   Quit Ye Like Men
 10/4/16  Teaching Opportunities  
 10/11/16  Teaching Opportunities Part 2  
 10/18/16  Teaching Opportunities Part 3  Matts Pettersson
 10/25/16  Teaching Opportunities Part 4  “The Wonderful Thing About Tiggers”
 11/1/16  Teaching Opportunities Part 5  “The Wonderful Thing About Tiggers” 2
 11/8/16  TEAMwork-Teach, Encourage, Advocate, and Model.  Review 
11/15/16 TEAMwork-Teach, Encourage, Advocate, and Model.    Part 2
 11/29/16  2+2=5 What is Christian Character?
 12/6/16  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 2
 12/13/16  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 3
 1/3/17  Compassion  New Year
 1/10/17  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 4  
 1/17/17  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 5  
1 /24/17  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 6
 1/31/17  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 7  
 2/7/17  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 8  
 2/14/17  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 9  
 2/21/17  2+2=5 What is Christian Character? Part 10  
 2/28/17  Teaching Opportunities – Revisited  Why do things seem to go in slow motion 
 3/7/17  Beating of Our Heart By Mark Hamby  
 3/14/17  Taking Dominion over Bushes  World Magazine
 3/21/17  Hey Kid….  Influence above average
 3/28/17  Hey Kid….Part 2  Influence
 4/4/17  Fine Art – Mark Hamby
 4/11/17  Bodily Exercise Profits Little – Mark Hamby 
 4/22/17  Coram Deo Part 1
 5/2/17  Coram Deo Part 2  
 5/9/17  Our Stories   My son’s sin & mine  
 5/16/17  Our Stories   My son’s sin & mine part 2  
 5/23/17  Our Stories   My son’s sin & mine part 3  
 5/30/17  Our Stories   My son’s sin & mine part 4  
 6/5/17  Save Yourself – Mark Hamby (repeat)  
 8/29/17  What Kind Of Person A Student Is  
 9/5/17  What Kind Of Person A Student Is Part 2  
 9/18/17 What Kind Of Person A Student Is Part 3   
 9/25/17  TEAMwork Review  
 10/2/17  TEAMwork Review Part2  
 10/3/17  TEAMwork Review Part3  TEAMwork
 10/10/17  TEAMwork Review Part4  Teach/Encourage
 10/23/17  TEAMwork Review Part5  Advocate
 10/29/17  TEAMwork Review Part6  Model/Mentor
 10/31/17  Discipline Without Direction is Drudgery  Mark Hamby
 11/07/17  11.11.11
 11/14/17  The Greatest Legacy  Mark Hamby
 11/28/17  A Selfish Heart  Mark Hamby
 12/4/17  A Selfish Heart Part 2
 12/12/17  Jackie Robinson  
 1/2/18  Life in Our Experiences  Grace Gem – Intro to Daily Life
 1/9/18  Our Daily Life – Part 1 Timothy Shay Arthur
 1/16/18  Our Daily Life – Part 2  Timothy Shay Arthur
 1/23/18  Our Daily Life – Part 3  Timothy Shay Arthur
 1/30/18  Our Daily Life – Part 4  Timothy Shay Arthur
 2/6/18  Our Daily Life – Part 5  Timothy Shay Arthur
 2/13/18  Our Daily Life – Part 6  Timothy Shay Arthur
 2/20/18  Our Daily Life – Part 7  Timothy Shay Arthur
 2/27/18  An Antidote to Laziness   Mark Hamby
 3/6/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 1
 3/13/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 2
 3/20/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 3
 3/27/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 4  
 4/10/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 5
 4/17/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 6  Patches of God Light Pt 2
 4/24/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 7  BT Washington
 5/1/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 8
 5/8/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 9  Where’s pop?
 5/15/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 10  Charles Schulz
 5/22/18  Therefore by their fruits Part 11  Tunnel Vision Pt1 Mark Hamby
5/29/18 Therefore by their fruits Part 12 Tunnel Vision Pt2 Mark Hamby
6/11/13 He Gave Me a Camera
9/4/18 What Kind Of Person A Student Is
9/11/18 Young People’s Problems/Opportunities JR Miller
9/18/18 Young People’s Problems/Opportunities pt2  Mick’s house
 9/24/13  Young People’s Problems/Opportunities pt3  These Five
10/2/18 Young People’s Problems/Opportunities pt4  
10/9/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 1
10/16/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 2 What Am I Here For?
10/23/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 3 The Home Life
10/30/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 4 About Your Mother
11/6/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 5  About your Father
11/13/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 6 About your Friends
11/27/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 7 Beginning a Christian Life
12/4/14 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 8 Getting Acquainted with Christ
12/11/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 9 About Consecration
12/18/18 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 10 About Prayer
1/8/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 11 The BIBLE in the Prayer-Closet
1/15/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 12 The Matter of CONVERSATION.
1/22/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 13 On Keeping QUIET
1/29/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 14 Learning to Be THOUGHTFUL.
2/5/15 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 15 On the Control of TEMPER.
2/12/15 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 16 Getting along with People
2/19/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 17 The Matter of Social Duties
2/26/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 18 The Use of Time
3/5/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 19 The Making of a Man
3/12/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 20 That Will Do
3/19/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 21 A High Sense of Honor
3/26/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 22 On Doing Our Best
4/2/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 23 A High Sense of Honor
4/9/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 24 Your Little Brother
4/16/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 25 The Blessing of Work
4/30/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 26 A Girl’s Questions
5/7/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 27 What is the Comfort?
5/14/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 28 Learning Contentment Pt1
5/20/19 Young People’s Problems/Chapter 29 Learning Contentment Pt 2
5/28/19 Matter of the Heart YPP Follow-up – Relationship
6/4/19 The 6th R Pt 1
6/11/19 The 6th R Pt 2
 
6/10/14  
     
9/2/14 The 6th R – Relationship Mark Hamby, Five Minutes More

 


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A Matter of the Heart, Part 3: The 6th R

A Matter of the Heart, Part 3: The 6th R

“Appearances?  Do what you are because whether you do or not, you will only influence [others] by what you are.”  GCM

I closed last week’s comments with this question: Stop and think for a moment, who are those that have had the most influence upon your life, giving shape to who you are today, either in a positive or negative way? We were also reminded last week of this quotation from John Angell James: “The silent influence of parental conduct is far greater, either for good or for evil, than most parents are aware of. You teach by what you say, you influence by what you do; and also by what you do not say, and do not perform.”

With all that in mind, let me close this school year with a summer-break encouragement regarding the 6th R.

You are probably familiar with the three R’s of education: Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic. There are also two additional R’s, Respect and Responsibility that are aimed at Character Training. But there is also a 6th R that is vital to all the rest: Relationship. In his book The Teen Whisperer, Mike Lenderman, a Montana rancher who deals with troubled youth, repeatedly speaks to the issue of relationships, saying among other things that “all long-lasting problems are relationship problems, …the result of our losing connection with the people we need.” Notice he says “need” not “want.” That is an important distinction when it comes to the developing mind and thinking of youth. He also points out that “the only person whose behavior we can [ultimately] control is our own.” Again to repeat from last week, “[When we] offer morality by external control instead of inner transformation—when the controls go away, so does the morality” (Joel Belz).

Character Advocate and parents, I ask again, who are the people that have most influenced your life, not just with their words, but with their words and lives in a heart filled relationship to them? I learned long ago from my own children and now my grandkids that it is not the things you can give them that they want (or need) most; it is you yourself that they long to possess, your heart. Relationships are indeed what we value most—our relationship with our God, and our soul-expanding connections with others.

One of the things I enjoy most about the writings of Mark Hamby is his repeated refrain of “placing relationship above responsibility.” It is not an either/or, but a both/and that is true with all the other R’s; we need to set the right priority for each. Said another way, “Rules without relationship lead to rebellion” (J.C. Watts, on leadership and parenting).

In placing relationship above responsibility, we really understand that all learning, especially in terms of Training Hearts and Teaching Minds for life in Christ, is again the matter of the heart, and “What comes from the heart goes to the heart” (Samuel T. Coleridge).

Parents often ask teachers about summer reading and such to prepare for the next school year. As important as that is, let me repeat my annual exhortation: I was once told by a very wise mentor, “Your children ask for many things, but deep down they don’t want what you can give them, as much as they just want you—time with you, your attention at eye level where they can see your smile and show you theirs.” Use this summer break to prepare your child not just for next year, but for all the days to come.

I have posted on our website an excellent piece on this topic: “Softened Authority” by Mark Hamby. http://www.ccawestminster.com/2014/06/soft-authority-by-mark-hamby/

“Only when a child truly possess your heart, will you begin to possess theirs” – anon

— Joe LoGiudice, Principal

 

 


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A Matter of the Heart, Part 2: The 6th “R”

A Matter of the Heart, Part 2: The 6th “R”

“The silent influence of parental conduct is far greater, either for good or for evil, than most parents are aware of. You teach by what you say, you influence by what you do; and also by what you do not say, and do not perform… O parents, parents! Take care what you are teaching your children by your example… Not a day passes, but you produce impressions, perhaps permanent impressions—either good or bad!”

We saw those words of John Angell James last week, and now we come to the next-to-last Character Comment for this school year. My heart is burdened for the matter of the heart. That is the key for both our own and our children’s character development in Christ.

As we learned this year from J. R. Miller, “This world is not a place merely to live in, nor a place in which to do certain kinds of business; it is a great workshop in which to make godly men [and women]” (Young People’s Problems, Chapter 19).  In that chapter we read this: “A baby is not a man. It may be very beautiful and sweet, and may have folded up in its life many fine possibilities; but it is only a baby. All its lessons have yet to be learned, its powers have yet to be developed, the capacities that lie folded up in its hand and brain and heart—have yet to be brought out and trained, its character has to be fashioned into loveliness and strength. The education begins at once, with the mother for teacher and the home for schoolroom; but the process must be slow, and it will require a long time… As the child gets older, other teachers come in and do their work, and the sphere of the education widens.”

Character Advocates, what is our influence in the making of godly character? What really is, or ought to be, our primary concern? Here’s another character quote to ponder: When we “offer morality by external control instead of inner transformation—when the controls go away, so does the morality” (Joel Belz). That needs to be repeated for our remembering.  Again: When we “offer morality by external control instead of inner transformation—when the controls go away, so does the morality.”  Learn this lesson well; when Samuel was seeking the next King of Israel to replace the one who had failed so miserably, he was instructed not to be fooled again by mere appearances, but to look to the heart. Why? – Because all that we do is based upon who we are, and that is a matter of the heart. Is this not the point our Lord continually makes in referencing the issues of the heart in Matt. 15? Recall that the Law which Moses carried from the mountain top was permanently inscribed on stone by the indelible finger of God. It is likewise now to be inscribed upon the heart, so that it may endure even more surely, even into eternity.

So I ask again, what is our influence in this making of godly character? Let me suggest that it is the 6th “R”—our relationship to our God and one another—that is the key.  Let me close with one question:  Stop and think for a moment, who are those that have had the most influence upon your life, giving shape to who you are today, both in a positive or negative way?

…to be continued one last time.

 

— Joe LoGiudice, Principal


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Circle of Friends Newsletter, May 2019

Here is our Circle of Friends Newsletter for May 2019 

To download a larger copy, click here ->CoF 19_05 Nwsltr

We consider our CCA Family a part of our Circle of Friends—individuals who care about Covenant Christian Academy.
 We hope that, as a friend, you will pray for our school and its students.  Our CoF’s Newsletter gives some indication of ways individuals can pray.
 We would also be honored to have our friends’ financial support to help underwrite our efforts in Christian Education. (see newsletter for details)
 Also very valuable are the word-of-mouth recommendations passed on to those who may be interested in what we’re doing here at CCA in Training Hearts and Teaching Minds for Life in Christ.
We publish the Circle of Friends newsletter four times each school year. If you would enjoy receiving a hard copy, let us know and you’ll receive one in a couple of months! If you would prefer to be on our email list only, please send an email to the school’s new address: cca@ccawestminster.com.
Thank you!


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